My Daughter Is Twelve Years Old And She Is 140 Lbs. How Much Should She Weigh?
Posted by admin | Under acai berry diet Saturday Dec 19, 2009I recently lost 40 lbs and now weigh 120 lbs, and I am 37 years old. Her and I tries to lose weight together but she was too busy to work out with me. It was either I have soccer or I have the drama club, or something else. You would think that since shes so athletic the weight would come right off. That’s why she got into sports; for her health and to get her to interact with people more. She has had a problem with social interaction, and I thought sports and clubs would help. I asked her about it, and she said “Mom I love all of these after school things, but I feel most shy doing sports, because all of the other girls are a lot skinnier, prettier, and better at the sports than I am.” So I said ” Honey if you don’t want to be in sports you don’t have to.” So I took her out. Then she quit her drama club, her tutoring help. So I asked her again honey “What is the real reason why you are quiting every thing?” and she answered “All of the kids make fun of me because when we have snacks, they think that I shouldn’t have one because I’m already fat enough. So I put her on a strict diet, and the weight will not go away. I put her in a fitness club, so she could be with kids just like her, and she loves it. She eats grapes, strawberries, bananas, bagel with low fat creme cheese, and other healthy stuff. What should I do. She is not happy with herself, and I hate to see her so sad. I WILL NOT GIVE HER DIET PILLS, OR THAT ACAI BERRY STUFF, AND LIPO SUCTION IS NOT THE ANSWER. I just want to help her, and I guess I don’t have the answer, so please help me.
Her weight is not the problem. It’s her body image. And you sound like you are still buying into the “thin is better” mentality as well, which is making it even worse.
Let her continue with her fitness club activities, as she seems to be enjoying it, and don’t mention her weight to her. She can also try rugby or belly dancing, as the girls in those activities usually don’t judge each other by how thin they are.
it’s hard to tell if her weight is healthy when we don’t know her height.
but, the best thing you can do is to try to help her feel comfortable in her own skin, to feel good about herself. and, you should talk with her doctor.
She is quite a healthy weight. Just stay away from bad foods and eat healthy foods. Also encourage her to excercise.
Tell her it dosn’t matter how she looks!
The first thing that you should think about is HOW TALL IS SHE AND WHAT IS HER BONE SIZE??? I have a daughter who is 5′11 inches and she’s big boned so she’s always going to be bigger than me both body size and weight because she’s bigger than I am. There is more to a good weight for a child than their age!!!! IF you want to find out what her weight should be talk to her DOCTOR!!! They are the only person who can tell you for sure if she’s over weight. Just because she’s 140 does not mean that she’s over weight. For my daughter that’s a great weight for my younger daughter who’s 5′4′ and medium boned it would be about 20 pounds to much for me who’s 5′1 and small boned it’s about 30 pounds to much. So a lot depends on the child’s height and bone size. My daughter’s ages are 30 and 16 1/2 and my older daughter’s been that tall since she was 13.